”Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi
Our whole life we are busy waiting for someone to love us, take care of us, but we totally forgot about the one person who needs to love first, and that is ourselves
We often miss the person who can give us tremendous love, and that is yourself. We should love yourself not in a selfish way but in an appreciative way. It is hard to digest, but it’s true, “How can we expect others to love us if we can’t love ourselves?”
On the other hand, this is also true that some other people love us as they see the awesome within us, even if we don’t. Isn’t that strange? So this article is about how to love yourself, but before you that, you should trust yourself.
Luckily, with a little practice and patience, you can learn to love yourself, too. The most essential thing while loving yourself is to be positive to remove all the negative thoughts from your life fill yourself with positivity.
How to Overcome Negative Beliefs about Yourself?
Beliefs are assumptions, what we make about others, about yourself, and how we expect things to be in the world. Generally, we make conclusions about our life and other people, and if all these things don’t happen according to us, then we start thinking differently.
This thought mostly is negative, and then the negativity starts. Usually, people have trouble letting go of negative thoughts about themselves.
From where these thoughts come? These thoughts come from the people we value most or from whom we seek acceptance and love. These ideas are ingrain into our brains due to continual exposure to situations. Once it gets established within our minds, Beliefs are acquired as facts.
“It’s better to be an optimist who is sometimes wrong than a pessimist who is always right.” – Unknown
If you ever had difficulty in your life or you have failed in situations, then things might look bleak and so cynical. So how to overcome this situation.
To face this situation ask yourself some questions
These questions not only help you to feel better but also help to grow in life.
- What is the good thing about this situation?
- What one thing I can learn from this?
- What things can I do differently the next time to have a better outcome?
Once you get all the answers, start working on it. Remember one thing People don’t care about what you say or do.
It is very easy to fall into negative thoughts and difficult to fall in love with yourself. Once you think about what people say or think and obliterate, your power may trap yourself in analyzing yourself.
You may get stuck in your head and thoughts; this will drag you away from reality and from what you want.
In reality, people don’t have much time to think about you and what you do.
In all the above the enormous task is to love yourself. Break all the barer between you and yourself.
Despite knowing all the flaws, the rejection you have, just embrace ourselves.
How to Start Loving Yourself?
1. Start Telling Yourself What You Love About Yourself
It is imperative to know how glorious or outstanding you are. Look into the mirror; the ability to see the potential in others is the reflection of our ability to see potential in ourselves. You have to show yourself some love first and foremost.
2. Show Gratitude for Who You are
You won’t always get what you want, right? And you won’t always be exactly where you want to be. But remember one thing in this world there are lots of people who will never have what you have right now. So be thankful to yourself for what you have.
3. Do Things that Make You Happy
Life is too short, invest vacant time in some activities that you love. A good life is about making the right decision, and this is the first move of self-caring by doing things you care about. It’s all about realizing that self-care is not selfishness.
4. Give Yourself a Chance
Give yourself a fair chance, explore new opportunities and ideas. Don’t think about its end how it’ll end start doing things and certainly the door will open with possibilities.
5. Forgive Yourself
Instant of regretting our past decisions, look further than what you have learned from those decisions. Forgive yourself and start to move on. Don’t forget whatever the mistake you made in the past is excellent for self-worth, love yourself, and forgive and forgot every mistake.
How Mindfulness Helps You To Love Yourself?
Sometimes when you feel that you don’t know yourself, then meditation is the best way to get inside your mind. Meditation is not about silencing your thoughts; it’s about entering your thoughts which is silent for a long period of time. Mindfulness can help you to gain a new perspective on life. It will help you to be on the present and to find yourself inside you.
If you don’t know how to do meditation. Start with Self-love meditation in the morning by mindful muscle.
5-Minute Self-Love Morning Meditation
Try this powerful morning meditation 30 minutes after waking:
- Sit upright with your eyes closed.
- Take three slow, deep cleansing breaths; breathe in “more,” breathe out “love.”
- Breathe naturally and notice the sensations of breathing for the count of ten.
- In your mind’s eye, visualize another “you” walking up and giving you a big warm hug.
- Hold this feeling in your awareness, and stay there as long as you like.
- Thank this other “you” for showing up, and bring your attention back to the breath.
In our life, everyone will come and go, either they are people, days, years all will come and go. But one thing will always remain, and that is our true love for yourself. The only condition is if you nurture it.
Make a to-do list like
Start spending time with people who will help you to love yourself more. Start doing meditation in which you can learn how to love yourself. Keep doing things that you love.
Stay Happy Stay Positive and Be in Love with Yourself.